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Is it possible to choose how you feel or are emotions completely automatic?
People sometimes tell me I am choosing to be unhappy or that I should just decide to feel differently. This infuriates m…
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How do you become a better listener in conversations?
I have been told by people I care about that I am not a good listener. I realize that when someone is talking I am often…
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Why do I feel lonely even in a relationship?
I have a partner and we spend time together but I still feel deeply lonely. Is something wrong with me or with the relat…
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Why do people stay in situations they know are bad for them?
I have been in a job I hate for 3 years and I know I should leave. My friend has been in a bad relationship for years an…
20
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Should I get back together with my ex if they come back?
My ex broke up with me 4 months ago and now they are reaching out wanting to get back together. Part of me wants to say …
14
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How do you accept that some of your dreams may never happen?
I had dreams in my 20s that I am now realizing may genuinely not happen. I am grieving them but also feel like I am supp…
2
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How do you know if you are in love or just comfortable?
I have been with my partner for 4 years and I genuinely cannot tell if I love them or if I am just used to them. I do no…
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How do you deal with perfectionism that is stopping you from finishing things?
I have ideas, projects, and goals that I never complete because nothing is ever good enough to show or release. I have h…
5
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How do you handle social anxiety in group settings?
One-on-one I am fine but in groups I become almost paralyzed with anxiety. I worry constantly about what to say, when to…
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Is it normal for sexual desire to decrease after years in a relationship?
My partner and I used to have a very active sex life but after 5 years together our frequency has dropped significantly.…
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Why do people often want what they cannot have?
I have noticed that I find things more desirable when they are rare, forbidden, or just out of reach. The moment somethi…
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What should I text someone I am interested in after getting their number?
I got the number of someone I met at a friend's party and now I have no idea what to text them. I don't want to seem too…
42
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How do traditional gender roles affect modern relationships?
My partner and I argue often about who should do what in our relationship. They were raised with very traditional expect…
9
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Is it possible to question your sexuality after years of identifying one way?
I am 34 and have always identified as straight. But lately I have been experiencing feelings toward women that I cannot …
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How do you deal with someone who is compulsively dishonest?
My brother lies constantly and about everything, big things and small things alike. When I catch him in lies he minimize…