Why do I sabotage good relationships?
Every time I am in a healthy relationship with someone who actually treats me well, I start picking fights, pulling away, or doing things to push them away. Why do I do this when things are actually good?
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This is often because healthy love feels unfamiliar and therefore unsafe. If you grew up with conditional love or chaos, calm love can feel boring or suspicious.
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You might also have a fear of intimacy. When someone gets too close you push them away to protect yourself from potential hurt.