Why do I still love someone who treated me badly?

Question

My ex was emotionally abusive and constantly put me down but I still miss them and think about them every day. It has been 6 months since we broke up. I hate that I still have feelings for someone who hurt me so much. Why can't I just stop loving them?

paisley_ross · Accepted Answer

Love and treatment are two separate things. You can love someone deeply and still be badly treated by them. The feelings don't turn off just because the relationship was toxic. Trauma bonding makes this even harder to break.

sophia_wilson · Answer

Your brain got addicted to the highs of the relationship. The good moments with an abusive person feel more intense because of the contrast with the bad ones. It's neurological, not weakness.

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