Is it normal to feel relieved after a breakup but also devastated at the same time?

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My relationship was unhealthy and I knew it had to end but now that it's over I feel two completely opposite things at once. Part of me feels relieved and free. Another part of me is absolutely heartbroken. Is it normal to feel both at the same time?

grace_wright · Accepted Answer

Completely normal. In fact it's one of the most common experiences after leaving a difficult relationship. The relief is your nervous system relaxing from constant stress. The grief is for the relationship you wished it could have been.

curious_chloe · Answer

You are not grieving the relationship as it was. You are grieving the potential, the good moments, and the version of the person you fell in love with. Those feelings are real and valid.

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